1st Date – She and 1st Date – He (Edexcel GCSE English Literature)
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1st Date – She & 1st Date – He
Each GCSE poetry anthology contains 15 poems, and in your exam question you will be given one poem – printed in full – and asked to compare this printed poem to another. The exam is closed-book which means you will not have access to the second poem. This does not mean you need to remember every line from memory, but you do need to understand and remember key aspects of the poem. Understanding four things will enable you to produce a top-grade response:
The meaning of the poem
The ideas and messages of the poet
How the poet conveys these ideas through their methods
How these ideas compare and contrast with the ideas of other poets in the anthology
Below is a guide to Wendy Cope’s poem '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He', from the Relationships anthology. It includes:
Overview: a breakdown of the poem, including its possible meanings and interpretations
Writer’s methods: an exploration of the poet’s techniques and methods
Context: an exploration of the context of the poem, relevant to its themes
What to compare it to: ideas about which poems to compare it to in the exam
Examiner Tips and Tricks
As part of the Relationships anthology '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' examines themes related to romantic relationships. The exam question asks you to compare the way such ideas are presented in two anthology poems.
It is therefore as important that you learn how '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' compares and contrasts with other poems in the anthology rather than understanding the poem in isolation. See the section below on “What to compare it to” for detailed comparisons of '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' and other poems in the anthology.
Overview
In order to answer an essay question on any poem it is vital that you understand what it is about. This section includes:
The poem in a nutshell
A “translation” of the poem, section-by-section
A commentary of each of these sections, outlining Wendy Cope’s intention and message
'1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' in a nutshell
'1st Date – She & 1st Date – He', written by the British poet Wendy Cope, offers parallel perspectives on a romantic relationship, specifically the beginning of one. By showing both a male and female perspective simultaneously, the poem offers a humorous and ironic take on romance.
'1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' breakdown
Lines 1–5
“1st Date - She
I said I liked classical music.
It wasn’t exactly a lie.
I hoped he would get the impression
That my brow was acceptably high.”
Translation
The poem begins from a female’s first-person perspective
The speaker describes a date during which she hoped to impress the man
The speaker said she liked classical music so she would seem sophisticated (high-brow)
Cope's intention
The poem begins with a monologue from a female speaker to show her intimate thoughts and unspoken words
The poem’s theme, miscommunication in relationships, is introduced:
The speaker justifies her need to appear better than she is so she appeals to the man (who she believes is more sophisticated than her)
Lines 6–9
“I said I liked classical music.
I mentioned Vivaldi and Bach.
And he asked me along to this concert.
Here we are, sitting in the half-dark.”
Translation
The speaker says that she mentioned famous classical composers
This led to a date at a concert, but it is “half-dark”, implying they cannot see each other
Cope's intention
The speaker suggests that this common bond led to a date, at a concert
The speaker hints that she has overstated her love for classical music and now they cannot really get to know each other
This makes an ironic and humorous observation about facades in new relationships
Lines 10–13
“I was thrilled to be asked to this concert.
I couldn’t care less what they play
But I’m trying my hardest to listen
So I’ll have something clever to say.”
Translation
The speaker says they are happy to be on a date
However, what is of higher priority is keeping up the illusion that she has a sophisticated knowledge of classical music
Cope's intention
The light-hearted tone of the speaker’s monologue makes the depiction of the date comedic and sweet
However, the poet begins to suggest that the date is not a genuine interaction
Line 14–17
“When I glance at his face it’s a picture
Of rapt concentration. I see
He is totally into this music
And quite undistracted by me.”
Translation
The speaker says that the man is more interested in the concert than her
She says she is now on a date with a man who genuinely does love classical music
Cope's intention
The speaker’s monologue ends with an uneasy tone
The speaker is frustrated by the lack of intimacy the concert affords them and realises the cost of her dishonesty
Lines 18–22
“1st Date - He
She said she liked classical music.
I implied I was keen on it too.
Though I don’t often go to a concert,
It wasn’t entirely untrue.”
Translation
The perspective shifts to the male speaker:
He says, ironically, that it was not him who said he loved classical music
He says he does like classical music but does not often go to a concert
This suggests they both overstated their love for it to impress each other
Cope's intention
The poem’s irony offers a comedic and intimate exploration of two people attempting to start a relationship
Hearing from both the female and then the male speaker shows the similar mistakes the pair both make
Lines 23–30
“I looked for a suitable concert
And here we are, on our first date.
The traffic was dreadful this evening
And I arrived ten minutes late.
So we haven’t had much time for talking
And I’m a bit nervous. I see
She is totally lost in the music
And quite undistracted by me.”
Translation
The speaker says they tried to find a concert for them to go to together
He is concerned he was late and seems a little worried
Cope's intention
Dramatic irony presents the misunderstandings between the pair:
While the female speaker thinks the man is distracted by the music, he is actually worrying about the impression he is making
In fact, he thinks she is focused on the concert
Lines 31–34
“In that dress she is very attractive -
The neckline can’t fail to intrigue.
I musn’t appear too besotted.
Perhaps she is out of my league.”
Translation
The speaker begins to notice the woman and feels attraction
He tries to control this, though, as he begins to wonder if she is too good for him
Cope's intention
The poem explores the mixed emotions of a couple on a date
The speaker, here, explores the nervousness, as well as the stirrings of desire
This line conveys the worrying thoughts about self-image at the start of a new relationship
Lines 35–38
“Where are we? I glance at the programme
But I’ve put my glasses away.
I’d better start paying attention
Or else I’ll have nothing to say.”
Translation
The poem ends with the speaker realising he should focus rather than daydream
He cannot see the programme as he has put away his glasses and feels it would look odd to get them out again:
However, now he cannot read any information and needs to impress his date with knowledge about the concert
Cope's intention
The poem ends with a final mirroring of the male speaker’s thoughts and the female speaker’s thoughts
They are both equally trying to impress each other, and the concert is of no concern
The poem is a comic examination of both genders’ similar emotions in a new relationship
Examiner Tips and Tricks
The exam question asks you to compare the ways poets present ideas about relationships in the poem given to you on the exam paper and one other from the Relationships anthology. For the best answer, you might want to focus on the way themes are presented across the two poems. This is better than providing a list of as many techniques as you can find, or remember. Perhaps you could begin your answer with a clear argument that clarifies how the poems explore relationships. This demonstrates that you have understood the poem and the poet’s intention. For example, “Wendy Cope explores ideas about divisions in romantic love. Similar themes can be found in…”
Writer’s methods
Although this section is organised into three separate sections – form, structure and language – it is always best to move from what the poet is presenting (the techniques they use; the overall form of the poem; what comes at the beginning, middle and end of a poem) to how and why they have made the choices they have.
Focusing on the poet’s overarching ideas, rather than individual poetic techniques, will gain you far more marks. Crucially, in the below sections, all analysis is arranged by theme, and includes Wendy Cope’s intentions behind her choices in terms of:
Form
Structure
Language
Examiner Tips and Tricks
Examiners specifically state that they are not looking for as many techniques as you can find in the poem(s). In fact, it is better to understand the themes in the poem and then use language and structural techniques to support your ideas.
Identifying sophisticated techniques will not gain you any more marks, especially if these techniques are only “spotted” and the poet’s intentions for this language are not explained. Instead, focus your analysis on the reasons why the poet is presenting their ideas in the way that they do: what is their message? What ideas are they presenting, or challenging?
Form
The poem connects two sections of monologue. Each offers the intimate thoughts of two speakers who are dating. Their perspectives mirror each others’ and, in this way, Wendy Cope conveys misunderstandings at the start of new relationships.
Theme | Evidence | Poet’s intention |
Romantic relationships | The poem is written from first-person perspectives to present the intimate thoughts of the speaker(s) | Cope shows the intense emotions felt by the speaker(s) in the poem to show the powerful influence of romance |
Each section, or perspective, is divided into stanzas that do not quite mirror each other:
| The poem’s form is mostly regular, but a slight imbalance conveys the troubled thoughts of the speaker(s) | |
Dramatic irony, created by hearing from the female before the male, shows misunderstandings on the date | Cope’s poem is an ironic examination of two speakers at odds with each other for no reason | |
Wendy Cope offers two monologues that present the private and similarly troubled thoughts of both a female and a male in a new relationship |
Structure
The poem’s structure presents the thoughts of two speakers on a date in a fast-paced poem that reflects their similarly anxious experiences.
Theme | Evidence | Poet’s intention |
Intense emotions | The poem follows a regular rhyme scheme of abcb to create a light-hearted tone | The child-like rhyme contributes to the comedic nature of Cope’s poem |
Cope uses parallelism to reflect the similar thoughts of each speaker:
| By reflecting similar unspoken thoughts, Cope draws attention to the speakers’ misguided attempts to impress each other | |
However, iambic tetrameter creates a fast pace to show their nerves:
| This device also presents their common experiences and suggests they are more alike than they think | |
While Cope illustrates the barriers created by miscommunication and posturing, she also suggests this hides common experiences that can create more honest and satisfying relationships |
Language
The poem highlights issues in relationships as a result of self-perception and the idea of status. While both speakers are presented as equally sophisticated, they believe they are lesser than the other. Cope mirrors their thoughts and language to show this as foolish.
Theme | Evidence | Poet’s intention |
Idealised love | The female speaker tries to impress upon her date that her “brow” is “acceptably high”:
| Cope draws attention to the speaker’s desperation to appear more than what they are:
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Their monologues use sophisticated, sometimes archaic language to hint at their similar level of intelligence:
| Both the male and female speaker appear to have more in common than they think, which highlights how their unspoken words create invisible divisions between them | |
The poem conveys the barrier between them by alluding to a lack of clarity:
| Cope mocks their misguided attempt to impress each other but shows them both as equally flawed and humble in their nervousness | |
Wendy Cope presents a light-hearted examination of two people who build a wall between them unnecessarily |
Examiner Tips and Tricks
The best answers deliver an integrated comparison of the themes and ideas in this and the other poem you choose for comparison and focus on the relevance of the methods used by the poet(s). This means it is better to structure your answer around an exploration of the ideas in the poems. Comment on the way elements of language, form or structure contribute to or support your argument and the presentation of the theme in the question. Stay focused on the task and choose your evidence based on the theme named in the question.
Context
Examiners repeatedly state that context should not be considered as additional factual information: in this case, it is not random biographical information about Wendy Cope or facts unrelated to the ideas in '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He'. The best way to understand context is as the ideas and perspectives explored by Wendy Cope which relate to romantic and complex relationships.
This section has therefore been divided into two relevant themes that Cope explores:
Romantic relationships
Complex love and desire
Romantic relationships
Wendy Cope is an English poet, born in Kent in 1945
Her poetry is often a modern and unconventional examination of new relationships, such as in the poem '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He'
Her poetry appears in anthologies that include poems about romantic relationships
Wendy Cope has said that her poetry should be read and interpreted subjectively:
This means, the poems do not clearly explain their ideas, rather they allow a reader to interpret the depiction of a relationship as they choose
The dual perspectives in '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' offer a balanced exploration of a relationship
The poem presents ideas about common bonds that go beyond gender
Complex love and desire
The poem '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' depicts two speakers unnecessarily at odds with each other on a date:
While Cope uses consistent rhyme schemes and stanza lengths with fairly controlled speakers, she alludes to complexities within love
The male speaker is intrigued by the woman’s “neckline” in the “half-dark”
Yet he must hide his feelings because of the risk of rejection
The female speaker feels ignored when the male speaker does not talk to her
The poem’s unspoken words hint at misunderstandings as a result of silence and a need to impress each other:
Both speakers want to appear more sophisticated than they really are
Cope, however, mocks the foolishness of her speakers with irony
Cope’s poems are often comedic, using sarcasm or irony to convey imbalances and tensions in a light-hearted way
While her work has been criticised for its simple nature and light take on love, she has been recommended for Poet Laureate
Examiner Tips and Tricks
Remember, AO3 is only worth up to 5 marks in this question. You will be expected to demonstrate your understanding of the relationship between the poem and the context in which it was written in an integrated way, throughout your answer.
Context should be connected to the theme named in the task, and can cover aspects of genre (related to poetry), social, literary and historical context, as well as the author’s influences. However, writing a whole paragraph about Elizabeth Barrett Browning is not an integrated approach, and will not achieve high marks. Instead, use contextual comments to support your ideas.
What to compare it to
The essay you are required to write in your exam is a comparison of the ideas and themes explored in two of your anthology poems. It is therefore essential that you revise the poems together, in pairs, to understand how each poet presents ideas about relationships, in comparison to other poets in the anthology. Given that '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' explores the ideas of romantic relationships and complex love, the following comparisons are the most appropriate:
'1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' and 'She Walks in Beauty'
'1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' and 'My Last Duchess'
'1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' and 'i wanna be yours'
For each pair of poems, you will find:
The comparison in a nutshell
Similarities between the ideas presented in each poem
Differences between the ideas presented in each poem
Evidence and analysis of these similarities and differences
Examiner Tips and Tricks
For the best responses, examiners are looking for perceptive comments about the way themes are presented, conveyed and highlighted by the language, form and structural techniques. It is therefore important that you have a thorough knowledge of key ideas, such as the way poems end, rather than just memorising a series of quotations.
It is also essential that you not only write about the named poem, but compare it to one other in the anthology. Only writing about the poem given on the paper will severely limit your marks.
'1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' and 'She Walks in Beauty'
Comparison in a nutshell:
Both Wendy Cope and Lord Byron elevate the idea of romantic relationships as well as showing how silence can create barriers. However, while Cope’s poem depicts the silent thoughts of two speakers on a date, Byron’s poem about a mysterious woman suggests an unrequited love.
Similarities:
Topic sentence | Both speakers describe idealised romantic relationships that create distance | |
Evidence and analysis | '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' | 'She Walks in Beauty' |
Cope presents the intimate thoughts of two nervous speakers on a date who cannot voice their private feelings | Byron’s poem presents a muted speaker’s description of fascination or intense attraction | |
The setting of Cope’s poem is a “half-dark” classical music concert:
| Byron’s poem depicts a mysterious and romantic setting that elevates the idea of love:
| |
The speakers, though both excited by each other, cannot express their feelings:
| Byron similarly alludes to silent but strong emotions:
| |
Cope’s female speaker observes her date secretly: “his face it’s a picture/Of rapt concentration”:
| Byron’s speaker similarly observes the woman without speaking to her: “Or softly lightens o’er her face;/Where thoughts serenely sweet express” | |
The poets elevate the idea of romance to the point that the speakers feel repressed in their expression of desire |
Differences:
Topic sentence | While Cope’s poem mirrors two perspectives to show the common experiences shared by two people on a date, Byron’s poem hints at unrequited love | |
Evidence and analysis | '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' | 'She Walks in Beauty' |
The poem’s first-person perspectives show both a male and a female’s thoughts about each other on a date | However, Byron’s third-person description of an unnamed woman, “she”, suggests the love is not realised | |
The poem allows readers to get to know the two speakers on a personal level:
| Byron’s speaker, though, does not refer to themselves or their emotions, implying detachment:
| |
Cope’s poem is a modern and fast-paced depiction of the anxiety surrounding a new relationship | Byron’s poem is a traditional, Romantic poem that idealises an unrequited love | |
Cope’s poem offers a balanced and intimate presentation of two speakers’ trivial concerns, whereas Byron’s poem depicts one speaker’s intense and distant admiration for a woman |
Examiner Tips and Tricks
It is a good idea to outline your argument in your introduction, providing a clear overview of the overarching themes within both poems. You can then use the theme to move between both poems to illustrate and support your arguments.
However, this does not mean that you cannot focus on one poem first, and then the other, linking ideas back to the main poem. You should choose whichever structure suits you best, as long as comparison is embedded and ideas for both texts are well-developed.
'1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' and 'My Last Duchess'
Comparison in a nutshell:
This is an effective comparative choice to explore the presentation of romantic love in terms of complex barriers and intense emotions that harm relationships. However, Cope’s poem is a light-hearted and balanced, modern examination of relationships, while Browning’s poem is a dark dramatic monologue about control.
Similarities:
Topic sentence | Both poems portray barriers in relationships as a result of miscommunication | |
Evidence and analysis | '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' | 'My Last Duchess' |
Cope presents parallel first-person monologues that show the way each speaker thinks about the other:
| Browning’s dramatic monologue uses third-person pronouns similarly:
| |
However, the silence between the speakers, Cope implies, causes a barrier:
| Browning’s duke is similarly conflicted in his relationship:
| |
Both poems present silent relationships that lead to frustrations |
Topic sentence | Both poems explore how cultural differences can lead to flawed relationships | |
Evidence and analysis | '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' | 'My Last Duchess' |
The speakers in Cope’s poem begin the relationship trying to impress each other with a love for classical music | Browning’s duke describes his paintings, gifts and statues in a bid to impress his wealth and status upon a guest | |
Cope depicts how the speakers’ attempts to appear sophisticated lead to divisions between them:
| Browning’s duke is angered that his wife did not appreciate his status, his “gift of a nine-hundred-years-old name”:
| |
Cope’s ironic poem ends unresolved:
| The dramatic monologue is similarly unresolved:
| |
Both poets convey how delusions of grandeur can create complex and frustrated relationships |
Differences:
Topic sentence | Cope’s poem is a balanced and modern exploration of romantic relationships, while Browning’s poem is a dark dramatic monologue about control | |
Evidence and analysis | '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' | 'My Last Duchess' |
Cope’s poem is an unconventional poem that offers two separate perspectives on a date | Browning’s dramatic monologue, in which only the Duke’s voice is heard, conveys imbalance and control:
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The light-hearted and humble portrayal of two individuals nervously starting a relationship is comedic:
| Browning, however, presents a sinister portrayal of a jealous husband:
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Cope mocks the speakers’ trivial concerns with dramatic irony and parallelism:
| On the other hand, Browning explores abusive control through the poem’s dark implications:
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While Cope shows two perspectives, a male and a female with equally worrying thoughts, Browning illustrates how an imbalance of power can lead to tragedy |
'1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' and 'i wanna be yours'
Comparison in a nutshell:
Both poems are modern explorations of romantic relationships and their speakers’ mixed emotions about the complexities of love. However, Wendy Cope’s poem is a balanced and light-hearted depiction of a date, whereas John Cooper Clarke’s poem is an interpretation of intense and obsessive love.
Similarities:
Topic sentence | Both poems examine the troubled thoughts of individuals in romantic relationships | |
Evidence and analysis | '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' | 'i wanna be yours' |
Cope’s speakers both convey their frustrations on the date:
| Cooper Clarke’s poem, too, conveys a speaker’s frustrated thoughts:
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Cope illustrates confused feelings as a result of unrealised desire:
| The poem begins with a speaker’s allusion to the chaos of love: “i wanna be your vacuum cleaner/breathing in your dust”:
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Cope portrays the intense moment between the pair as overwhelming:
| Cooper Clarke also portrays the speaker’s intense feelings with darker images: “let me be your raincoat/for those frequent rainy days” | |
By employing a regular rhythm, Cope’s poem is song-like, simple, and comedic in tone | Cooper Clarke’s poem is similarly light and lyrical, with a regular rhythm | |
In their unconventionally upbeat presentations of love, the poems both show the disturbing emotions felt by individuals within romantic relationships |
Differences:
Topic sentence | While Cope presents a balanced and light-hearted depiction of a date, John Cooper Clarke illustrates intense and obsessive love | |
Evidence and analysis | '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' | 'i wanna be yours' |
The speakers in Cope’s poem are controlled and polite:
| Cooper Clarke’s poem employs half-rhyme irregularly to convey an unstable speaker:
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The speakers in Cope’s poem repress their anxieties and dishonesty:
| Cooper Clarke offers a presentation of a speaker’s unabandoned loyalty:
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Cope’s poem presents speakers who are unfamiliar with each other and awkwardly aloof:
| On the other hand, Cooper Clarke’s poem refers to a deep and passionate love: “I wanna be your setting lotion/hold your hair in deep devotion” | |
While the speakers in Cope’s poem are more concerned with the impression they are making on each other, Cooper Clarke’s speaker expresses an uninhibited declaration of commitment |
Examiner Tips and Tricks
Choose whichever poem you are able to make the most in-depth comparisons with in the exam. For example, you could choose to compare the presentation of romance in '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' and 'She Walks in Beauty'. Or you might wish to explore the idea of complex desire in '1st Date – She & 1st Date – He' and 'My Last Duchess'. What is important is that you view the poems thematically, with a clear emphasis on relationships. This will give you a better framework in which to write your response in the exam.
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